By Wandile Dludlu.

Homes in eSwatini are plagued by violence, all forms of abuse and sexual immorality amongst siblings, particularly against women and the girl child amidst this grim reality, whereas as emaSwati we displays a complete inability to pushback and or redress this catastrophe.

The scage of all forms of violence amongst blood related and close neighbors continues to rear its ugly head, dubbed Gender Based Violence(GBV), homicide and or femicide all reflect a Swazi Nation completely detached from its moral fibre, lost with her soul and societal alignment.  

The spiritual, social, economic and political superstructure is put into question whether it’s working for the common good of the Nation. 

The family is and remains the primary unit of this society, first pot of entry for literally every citizen, orientation, grooming and nurturing mainly happens at this level before formal education,religion and all such as we develop into adulthood of the Swazi child. 

The proven record of abominable family atrocious and demning prevalent wrongs, suggests that the boy child, particularly daughters together with their mothers are more likely psychological, physically and emotionally victims of violence and such like nefarious forms of abuse at home and communal level, spaces that ought to be safe for them.

The response to this grim statistical backed picture has been Hypocritic, detached and complete disproportionate to the aggressive velocity of this societal decay, we have left this entirely to the hands of police and the justice system in a country with not only a weak but compromised Judiciay,inherently incapable of meeting justice to the poor.

As emaSwati we seem completely to lack understanding nor the requisite appreciation as to why often times in our family level, we turn to experience violence and or abuse between husband and wife, girl friend and boyfriend, brother and sister, neighbors alike, violence between Pastors and congregants, leaders and members in political parties and or trade unions, as well as King and his wives.

The social engineering is flawed from foundation, we are wired to inherently hold backward beliefs,myths, norms and practices that females are less human beings, in churches nor matter its variance preaches gospel that depicts women as weaker vessels, unfit for many responsibilities that male counterparts are deemed fit for. 

The general belief that women are not fit for leadership at home, work and at national level is amongst what leads us into abusing our wives as soon as we are unhappy and or frustrated by either economic pressure, poverty and or any kind of pressure in our daily lives, both men and women dearly harbor these traits for we are all products of the same society that teaches us from birth through overt and covert means such backward ideas. 

We need to stand up men and women, brothers and sisters those of us who agree that we need a new social engineering, we need to have a deeper understanding of the “mind of the abuser" we live with in our homes, work with and  have beers,go to church with, go to political meetings with and hold in high esteem actually, many of them are in leadership positions, loved if not revered, there are Deputy Presidents like me, highly regarded even. 

We have very few in jail, even those, let’s have a program with the department of Correctional Services in which a specialized volunteers have a “objective debriefing” after sentence to collect raw data from which we can deduct the common thread of why we end up abusing each other, there is a common reasons whilst there could be different push variables, but until we highlight in bold capital letters as our diagnosis can we respond with clarity and efficiency in a comprehensive fashion too.

We must run a national response to this scarge, intervening, corrective and wholistically in which family, church, schools and community groupings are turned into vehicles for a new society.

We must understand that as emaSwati we don’t have a government that under normal circumstances would be central in such a national project.

No one will stop this madness, no organization will liberate us, worse no Government department will solve this calamity that continues to beseech the sanctity of a Nation so great that today we are a brewing an abused new generation that tomorrow must be fathers, mothers and leaders, this threatens the existence of everything we dream to be as emaSwati.